On validation:Â
Most people spend a lot of their lives feeling ignored or criticized or misunderstood. The cumulative effect of these experiences of being forgotten or corrected is that people feel unsure of who they are – or, in some cases, too scared that who they are isn’t good or lovable enough.
If you give these people a chance to really shine, then they recapture a part of their existence that they have been longing to find – the sense that they indeed have something of value to contribute to the world, and that their life means something important after all.