The Parallels of Writing and Faith

The words are coming from a place of spontaneity; I hardly know what I will write before the words appear.

Perhaps that’s how it is with GOD – walking with Him moment by moment and seeing what comes. Attending to the next word, the next phrase – and being surprised, at the end, by what lucid story has taken shape.

Not that there are never any plans or guiding principles. Sometimes there are, and these help very much. They give us structure and a sense of what we’re hoping for, of what we’re aiming to achieve. This sense of direction, of vision, is good. (Though, sometimes, we work without it, and that is good, too. It all depends on the task at hand.)

Before I digress too much, let me simply say this:

It is not coincidental that GOD is asking us to write. He has put that desire, and that sense of calling, on our heart for a purpose. The fact that, for us at least, the process of writing parallels our journey of faith, is not really a surprise – for isn’t it only natural to suppose that, when we respond to our calling, we will also be deepening our intimacy with GOD?

The Wide View of the Miraculous

I know you feel assaulted by doubts and by people’s opinions that seem to cast your hopes as unreasonable and immature and incompatible with reality – but the thing I want to say in reply is this:

GOD’s plans transcend human understanding. For those who don’t believe, the miraculous is something to be ridiculed or disbelieved. But GOD speaks to people in different ways.

GOD is the Creator of your soul, and He knows what your soul responds to. Leave it to Him to speak to you and guide your paths. He knows His desires for you far better than anyone – especially those who have only the smallest glimpse into the inner workings of your soul.

Be at peace even if GOD asks you to walk by an uncommon way. Not that He is asking you to dismiss the ordinary – no. There is plenty of space for attending to that. But GOD speaks to your soul in a very personal way – and if you hear Him speak, don’t be afraid. He knows your heart, and He is committed to taking care of it.

Life often reveals itself to be something miraculous – if (and only if) we open our eyes and hearts wide enough to see.

Brief Thoughts (No. 9)

“Prepare to be disappointed,” is what I’ve taken to telling myself.

It seems the world is insistent on taking my sense of enchantment away from me and telling me that it’s immature – a mere fantasy – and replacing it with a somber understanding that the way life really works is much more ordinary and normal.

What a sad and joyless way to live.

Always Forward, Never Back

Sadness, yes. Also quiet. The roots of desire are buried deep.

We walk, we trust. We unburden ourselves by calling out to GOD and hoping that He hears.

We have walked, we have traveled. We have spent ourselves in the search.

But have we found the thing we were seeking? Have we brought ourselves to a place of peace?

We walk on. We breathe. The tiredness is enough to keep us stuck in our ways, but we sally forth anyway, laboring under the strain of our conviction that one must move always forward, never back. So we continue on, counting our fatigue as a sign of our victory in the battle against our lesser ways.

The Simpler Way

Don’t let your fears stand in the way of the truth.

That means – if your soul is leading you to something, trust that instinct. If your mind is driving you to something very anxiously, and in a way that brings you no peace – leave that “guidance” aside. It is most likely your fear leading you astray.

Life is complicated, yes. And we don’t always find things working out the way we wish. But the intuition you feel to follow the “simple way” is valid and good.

It doesn’t mean pretending that the complexities of life don’t exist. It means choosing to face them with trust in GOD and with an understanding that, often, the simpler way allows you to see through the illusory things, straight into the heart of what is most essential, and effective, and true.

Montessori and Counseling Theories

A short reflection on the compatibility of the teachings of Maria Montessori with basic counseling theories. 

In the last few years, I have grown extremely interested in the Montessori Method. This framework, which is less a “method” than a holistic approach to learning, was developed by Maria Montessori, an Italian physician, almost a century ago. Ms. Montessori spent a great deal of time observing children in an experimental classroom setting. From her observations she realized that children optimize their learning potential when their education unfolds in a carefully sequenced, developmentally appropriate way. Montessorian ideas are implemented in schools around the world, and have been widely supported by recent research in educational psychology.

There are many elements associated with the Montessori approach to education. Chief among them are the ideas of independence (allowing children to do things by themselves), “following the child” (recognizing that children are wisely guided by their own inner roadmaps), the prepared environment (equipping children with appropriate materials and giving them a well-ordered space for them to work), and the “absorbent mind” (acknowledging that children experience sensitive periods of development in which certain kinds of knowledge acquisition come easily, almost effortlessly, if the environment is well-prepared). Montessori education is also known for its multi-age classrooms (in which older children mentor younger children), sensorial materials, and view of play as the child’s natural form of “work.” Angeline Stoll Lillard, in her book Montessori: The Science Behind the Genius, summarizes the Montessori Method by describing eight of its key principles and highlighting the plentiful research literature that support them (Lillard, 2017).

While not a counseling theory per se, the Montessori philosophy offers useful insights to the creative counselor. For example, Montessori asserts that movement and cognition are closely related – an observation that dovetails neatly with the advice of my Counseling Children professor, who recommends getting children to move their bodies whenever possible in the counseling room. (Emotions are often stored in the body, after all.) Montessori also endorses collaboration, and believes that children learn best when adults provide plentiful freedom within a few clear limits. In a similar way, counselors must help their clients to feel secure and purposeful by providing thoughtful boundaries, while also giving them lots of freedom to express themselves uninhibitedly and spontaneously. Finally, Montessori prioritizes “contextual learning,” which it views as more meaningful than abstract, compartmentalized learning. Counselors likewise see the importance of learning in context, and often role-play scenarios with clients, or challenge them to “test out” their new skills in real-life settings between sessions. There are many other examples of the parallels between Montessori education and good counseling practice, but even just the few examples mentioned here should illustrate the compatibility of the two domains.

Although Montessori is most often associated with the early years of development (preschool and elementary school), the philosophy actually provides a template for learning across the lifespan. Montessori principles can be implemented from infancy (prescribing such things as freedom of movement and the use of beautiful natural materials in the baby’s bedroom), and they can also be applied effectively in old age (promoting dignity and purposeful engagement, especially among adults with dementia). And because Montessori is child- (or person-) centered and inherently flexible, it can be used successfully with many different populations, including those with learning differences. Part of the beauty of the Montessori approach is that it allows each person to creatively develop her own unique gifts and strengths, independent of some generic, one-size-fits-all mold.

As you can tell, I am very admiring of the Montessori Method, and believe that its ideas are useful and sound. It is incredible that, despite getting its start almost 100 years ago, Montessori aligns quite precisely with modern research into the science of learning. I believe that this philosophy provides a refreshing alternative to traditional American classrooms, and I suspect that it may also translate beautifully into the work we do as counselors.

Reference

Lillard, A. S. (2017). Montessori: The science behind the genius (3rd ed.). Oxford University Press.  

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