If you want to claim your existence (as well you should), you will need to say with authority: “Be gone, fear! I have a mission to accomplish and I won’t have you standing in the way.”
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Don’t despair if others fail to see what you have been striving for. Don’t get it into your head that other people know your way better than you yourself do. It’s in this sacrifice – of your own ability to communicate with GOD and look into your soul – that you forfeit something very essential to your wellbeing and to your peace of mind. For in the act of delegating the matters of your life to others, you fail to realize the purpose for which you were made – and you let your unique strain of personhood disappear, at least a little, into the background of other people’s wishes and whims.